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The Mystery of Happiness: Paul Susic Ph.D.

When we reflect upon the tapestry of experiences and emotions that come to define the patterns of our lives, we continue to stumble our way toward that seemingly elusive state we refer to as happiness. What is happiness? How do we find it when it often seems to be just around the next meandering turn in our lives? How do we recognize it when we have it?

One of the best clues to true happiness may be found in a parable about the alley cat and the kitten told by psychologist Wayne Dyer Ph.D. I have paraphrased it in my own words below.

A wise old alley cat came upon a kitten who was doing what kittens do, with boundless energy was chasing its tail around, and around, and around. The alley cat asked the kitten; “Why are you chasing your tail?” The kitten replied: “I have discovered that happiness is in my tail, and I am trying to catch it.” The wise old cat thought for a second and replied to the kitten. “I too have found happiness to be in my tail, but I find that if I just go about my business it just follows right behind me.”

We look at the world around us and chase after the many things that we feel will bring us that seemingly elusive happiness that will last. We look to relationships with people, to new jobs, new homes, a car or even those life goals that only seem to make us happy for a while. We continue to look “out there” rather than “in there”. And we wonder why we seem to continue to find disappointment in place of the things that should bring happiness.

Maybe the alley cat was not only wiser than the kitten, but was actually smarter than many of us, in that happiness is about our focus. Maybe, happiness really never was an elusive mystery. Maybe, it was there with us all along.

By Paul Susic Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist

“Don’t forget to smell the roses”. By Dr. Paul Susic

We hustle here and we hustle there. Rushing through our lives as if tomorrow is forever. There is no guarantee of tomorrow, or even today. So stop, today, and “smell the roses”.

The late Beatle John Lennon once said “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans”. So profound and true. How often unfortunately, do our future plans seem to require the procrastination of today’s important pleasures and happiness?

We so easily become possessed by our daily cares, it’s almost as if that is all that matters. Life’s demands and difficulties so quickly monopolize our entire lives that we subordinate precious friendships and family relationships to some future destination that magically holds abundant time and energy for all of our deferred opportunities to live and to love.

As I get older and live more of life, I realize there is no magical tomorrow, there’s only today. Troubles will come and troubles will go, as surely as the sun and the moon continue in their celestial orbit through the millennia of time.

Even the “larger-than-life” difficulties which seem to consume us and eat away far too many precious days of our lives, in retrospection never were really larger than we were. We will make it because we always have.

At this very special time of year don’t forget to be thankful for such a wonderful opportunity to live, to love and to grow as we wander through the miraculous odyssey of our lives. Tomorrow was never forever, so, “don’t forget to smell the roses”.

By Paul Susic Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist
Posted November 22, 2017